Is Your Body Language Affecting Your Business?

 

 

Listening isn’t just about the act.

It’s about the intention.

Through personal space and body language, we communicate more than our words ever let on.

Christian Vesterfelt: Just listening and it’s not the skills, it’s the intention. One of the things that I had written down here is that when you enter into a conversation, enter into the conversation truly interested. I am a curious person by nature, so when you say something I want to know, tell me more about it. I’ve listened to some of the most boring people that has ever graced this rock floating through space and I’ve been like, “That was fascinating.”

William Wood: Why are they grazing? That’s what I want to know. Why are they grazing?

Christian Vesterfelt: Grazing? Did it sound grazing? I said gracing.

 Oh gracing. I was imagining this really boring person bent over eating grass. I was like, “What?” I could see it now. Cows need therapy too, I’m just saying. It’s like equine therapy but it’d be what? Bovine therapy?

 

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Christian Vesterfelt: There are individuals who I know would really benefit from it. Being truly interested in your bovine friend, the messages that they have to say.

William Wood: While they’re grazing.

Cows grazing 

Christian Vesterfelt: Tell me, how does that piece of hay taste? I see you’ve moved to a new patch, interesting. The other thing is that not only do you want to be truly interested or intrigued, you want to be a curious person.

I learn the most from my kids and the children around because they are the most curious people that have grazed this Earth. They do graze through my refrigerator quite often. What I’ve observed is that people get to a point where they know everything, and then they stop being curious. The moment they’re no longer curious the conversation ends.

 

Christian Vesterfelt: ​You can’t say anything to them because they’re like, “I already know. I already know.” Being truly interested and curious, like, “How do you see this? How are you experiencing this particular event?”

Really, earlier I mentioned something very personal and I would love to have a conversation where I was able to … Tell me, what was your experience in that conference call really like? I want to know and be totally honest. The other attribute that really contributes to what you were talking about in terms of the power, this isn’t technical like, “Here’s step A, B and C,” but the characteristics or the attributes of the individual is being genuinely concerned about receiving the message and about the person. Whether you really dislike a person or not you want to be genuinely concerned.

William Wood: Yeah. If the conversation is worth having, it’s worth listening. I’m not saying that it’s always worth having a conversation with someone but if you are going to enter in to influence somebody, if you’re going to enter into the process of engaging in conversation, you need to think about how are you going to do that.

Those first three steps are critical. The fourth step … Let’s review the steps real quick.

We’ve got empty your cup. We’ve got create a good emotional state inside of yourself, and sometimes that’s as simple for me as looking at the other person or imagining the other person and thinking, “I want to connect. I’m fully present,” and that’s enough to do it.

William Wood: ​Sometimes I need to go through a little ritual, like a little breath focus ritual or something to ground my energy into the present moment. If I’m in a session with a client and I feel our energies wandering, I’ll actually do that with that with the client.

Ritual 

William Wood: ​I’ll say, “Let’s spend a minute getting fully present so that we can be really totally focused in on what’s going on here.” We quiet, we close our eyes, focus on our breath and then come back with full attention. That’s been really useful for me. I’ve done that at home as well, although I probably am more consistent about doing it in the office.

The last step to listening is listening skills, and the beauty is that there are incredible skills that have been developed.

​Some of which are so powerful that there are certain groups that have wanted to limit the training of these skills because they say only a professional should have these skills in their hands, and yet I think all of us are professionals. All of us have children, all of us have spouses, all of use are in business, all of us have products or services that we represent in one way, shape or form, even if it’s just us and our services to our boss.

What are some of the major listening skills and how can they be used?

The first thing that you already touched on is the use of your body. Listening has more to do than just listening to words, meaning when someone is sending communication, a fraction of the meaning that they’re communicating actually happens with the words they speak.

The large majority of the meaning of a phrase is going to come in the body posture and in the voice tone the person uses.

Just listening right now on the radio, listen to the difference in this phrase. I love you. I love you.

I, love, you. I? love you? I love you. You know I love you. You’ve ever heard someone say that?

Seriously, for those of you that are at home you could probably think of another 15 ways to communicate that phrase. If all I was doing was just listening to the words then I’m missing the vast majority of that conversation.

 

William Wood: I was talking to a friend, a single friend. He was out at a dance, he had taken this girl out on a first date, they went dancing.

There was another girl there that he kind of knew and he kind of liked. He didn’t want to ditch his date so he went and he said to her, “Is it okay if I go dance with my other friend?” She leaned back, she crossed her arms, her eyes narrowed and she looked at him and said, “If you want,”just like that. He was a real literal guy, now his brain registered it later, but in the moment he’s like, “She thinks it’s okay.”

Christian Vesterfelt: Cool.

William Wood: He went. He went and danced with this other girl. It wasn’t anything crazy but he danced their dance, and then he came back and she was gone. He’s like, “What happened?” He was racking his brain, he’s talking to his buddy and his buddy was there and he was like, “Dude, didn’t you see her shoot laser beams into you with her eyes?”

One of the key listening skills is to remember you’ve got to listen with your eyes. You’ve got to listen with your ears but not just to the words, you’ve got to listen to the inflections that people use.

William Wood: When they say it are they saying it with certainty? Are they saying it with doubt? Are they saying it with hate? What’s the emotion behind the phrase? All of that is perceived with the eyes and with the ears as you’re tuning into to voice tone.

If you’re a guy this is a revelation. Most guys are lit- Not most guys but a lot of guys are literal listeners. It’s the engineer mind. It’s like, “She said she didn’t want me to surprise her.” Well yeah, that’s what she said with her mouth but everything else that she’s been doing for three months tells you that she wants you to surprise her.

Christian Vesterfelt: Surprise her.

Yeah, like,”Really? How do I hear that and see that?” You’ve got to start opening your eyes and paying attention. Part of that means taking your attention off of whatever internal world you’ve got going on and putting it on the other person. If you start doing that you’ll start perceiving a tremendous lot more. That’s the first real skill.

Along listening workshop we might actually spend a lot of time talking about that. I think another second important part of the skill base that has nothing to do with being too technique-y, is to mind your use of space. The way that you setup your space to listen is going to influence the person’s feeling of safety. Gosh, without going into a lot of training a couple of tips.

Probably most people are going to feel more comfortable with you off to one side or the other of them. Sitting directly across from someone sometimes, not always but sometimes can create a confrontational feel. You’ve got to gauge the person on that and you can gauge it in their body language.

William Wood:​ Interestingly enough, most people will have a preference as to which side you talk to them on. Some people will respond much better on your right or on your left. Whenever I teach a live event a lot of people are skeptical about this until I actually demonstrate it.

 

Talking

William Wood:​ You can literally, as you’re talking to somebody you’re going to naturally probably turn one side or the other of your body towards the person and if that happened it has to be the side that they’re comfortable on.

They’ll either stay where they’re at or they might even lean in a little bit. If you sidle up to the side of somebody where they’re not comfortable while you’re standing, almost always there is a micro-lean away, or people will put their foot in between you and them to create space.

William Wood:​ I’ve done this thousands of times now as I’ve demonstrated this and consistently this surprises people. This will surprise professionals who’ve spent their whole life thinking about it. I taught this once to a group of psychotherapists.

There was one psychotherapist that was really having a hard time communicating with one of his clients and all he did the next time she came in was sit in a chair on the other side of her.

Held the session and the session went completely differently, by gauging the use of space.

There’s a use of space that’s there. There’s also distance things.

William Wood:​ In the United States if a guy gets too close to a gal, unless they’re in an intimate relationship or something, it’s like, “Wow,” it can create a weird energy. If you’re a real touchy person and the other person’s not a touchy person, it can create a real funny energy in the room. Your use of your body is going to influence and impact your ability to listen.

Communication

 

William Wood:​ I’ve done this thousands of times now as I’ve demonstrated this and consistently this surprises people. This will surprise professionals who’ve spent their whole life thinking about it. I taught this once to a group of psychotherapists.

There was one psychotherapist that was really having a hard time communicating with one of his clients and all he did the next time she came in was sit in a chair on the other side of her.

Held the session and the session went completely differently, by gauging the use of space.

There’s a use of space that’s there. There’s also distance things.

William Wood:​ In the United States if a guy gets too close to a gal, unless they’re in an intimate relationship or something, it’s like, “Wow,” it can create a weird energy. If you’re a real touchy person and the other person’s not a touchy person, it can create a real funny energy in the room. Your use of your body is going to influence and impact your ability to listen.

Christian Vesterfelt: ​Here’s a good rule of thumb, extend your hand directly out in front of you, fingertips pointing straight out, so it’s like your arm is at a 90 degree angle to the floor and then lift your palm, keeping your arm parallel to the floor, raise your fingertips straight up. That’s about where most people’s personal space bubble goes to.

Now if you’ve got two people talking, like if Christian and I were talking to each other as two guys here in the United States, our bubbles would need to barely be touching each other to stay in a good comfortable contact.

 

Christian Vesterfelt: ​Basically, this means that if you’re a tall person you actually need to give people a little bit more space. That would mean that it’s like in your imagination you imagine that they have their arm extended and you have your arm extended and your palms are not touching. If you’re right about there in most situations you’re going to be pretty safe.

If it’s with the opposite gender you may even want to add six or eight inches. That’s the US, that’s very different, I had a friend from Europe and he would come try to have a conversation with me and the normal talking range was about six inches, nose to nose.

He would come up and I wasn’t use to that and it was like I would retract and he would follow me. It was this backwards dance, it was pretty crazy, until I breathed into, I’m like, “Okay, this is normal for him.” It’s like, here we are talking almost nose to nose. It’s like I can catch his spit in my mouth. I know that’s probably a graphic …

Communication

 

William Wood:​ I was going to say a good way to combat that would be just to go and do it.

This was back in my college years, he was married, I was married. There was no romantic interest, this was a cultural difference. Culture by culture it’s going to be a little bit different.

One of the things that you can pay attention to is, how do you know if somebody’s uncomfortable with you?

It’s in a micro or a macro lean away. If they start to lean away from you or move back from you, or if you see them fidgeting with their chair and trying to move their chair into a different spot or something like, you’re probably not paying attention and minding your space and it’s going to affect your ability to create that safe environment that’s going to help them open up to you.

 

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5 Key Ingredients To A Strategy That Works

Over the past several weeks, one of my mentors has been sharing keynote ideas that will help you grow yourself AND your business…no matter what business you are in.

Today’s episode is one that I want to share with everyone I can.

5 Key Ingredients To A Strategy That Works

Principle #1:  Clear, Distinct Company Vision

The vision you have with your company, your online business and your life is critical to moving people.  

The truth is that most people even who talk about vision do not have clear vision, and are simply borrowing the terminology from other people they’ve heard speak at motivational rallies. A vision should be clear and concise and be repeatable by anyone inside of the organization that you’re building.

 

Principle #2:  Clear Strategic Differentiation

Trying to just be like someone else is futile, especially if they’ve been in business for a long time and have continued to refine their process.

As businesses exist over a period of years testing and tweaking, they develop a market uniqueness that allows them to do things that other businesses can’t do in a cheaper or better way. Businesses don’t thrive on doing more, they thrive on being unique and different, serving the market with a competitive edge.

Principle #3:  Test and Improve Every Process

Every part of your business system can be improved if you pay attention to it, test it, and continue to rethink the structure of it and try new things.

Too many people, including myself get stuck in things that we think work ­ but really those things are just that way, and could work better if strategic thinking was applied to that aspect of the business. A page online doesn’t necessarily work better if it looks a certain way just because someone thinks that it does ­­­ until you decide to try something new.

Principle #4:  Invest in Personal Growth

A few weeks ago, one of our episodes mentioned Benjamin Franklin, and that he was vegetarian but it never explained why.

When I read this story it inspired me and I want to share it with you. Benjamin Franklin wasn’t a vegetarian because he wanted to save animals or thought it was healthier ­­­ he was a vegetarian because he wanted to save the money he was spending on meat to buy more books!

Now, I’m going to make a suggestion to you reading this that the reason that you know Benjamin Franklin’s name is because of that choice that he made to delay his gratification to work at being better and grow his mind.

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Principle #5:  People Over Profits

If you make a decision that you truly want to build a business to serve people it’s going to differentiate you in the marketplace because you’re doing things with an intention of making people’s lives better in some way.

Profits are important and sometimes the only way I can convince people to think in this way is by showing them (and easily proving) that putting people first actually makes you MORE money, faster and better! And because you feel good you’ll continue to make money month, after month, after month!

 

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How To Price Your Products Or Services

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Are You Winning Customers And Friends Or Losing Them?

Are you winning customers and friends or losing them?  Which one is it?

It’s a known fact that people join YOU and not necessarily your company.  When talking with people it’s important to know what they want.  However, it’s more important to know what it is that you want.

What is your ultimate goal when talking with someone? 

What is your intention in starting a conversation?

What result are you trying to achieve?

Your goal should be to be a problem solver.

You can have anything you want

Whether we realize it or not, we are all coaches.  We coach our children in doing the right things and how to treat others. As leaders, we coach/help our team and customers to move forward and set personal and professional goals that will give them the life they really want. 

Knowing how to talk with people, whether it’s in  business or in your personal life will help you move forward in your own growth and success.

Recently I learned a profound method to help others in setting their goals.  It’s called the 5-Why goal technique.  It’s a process of asking someone what their goal is then asking them why they want to achieve this goal. Often the person is very vague when they first answer the “why” question.  By repeatedly asking them “why” they want this specific goal, you are helping them get clear on their vision and what it is they want to achieve.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a personal goal, financial goal, health goal, or any other goal they might have.  Helping them get clear is the key.

So, what does this have to do with winning customers or losing them?

It all comes down to knowing how to relate to people. 

“Let the other person talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things”. ~~ Dale Carnegie

Let a person talk themselves

Did you know that “Coaching” is the second fastest growing industry in the world?  That’s true.  It is second only to I.T. (Internet Technology).

My question is how many of the people in the industry who call themselves “life coaches” are actually qualified?   Just because someone calls themself a “life coach” doesn’t necessarily mean they have had the training to so do.  Actually less than one half of the coaches make over a thousand dollars a month. 

Why is that?

It’s because they don’t have the education, they don’t have the tools, and they don’t have the systems to make money in their business.

Here’s a true story that happened to me a couple of weeks ago.  I was approached (in a round-about-way) by someone who considered herself a life-coach.  I went to her website, and out of curiosity signed up to receive her online newsletter.  I entered my name and email and over a week later I still have not received her newsletter.

Why is that? 


I’m not totally sure but my guess is that she doesn’t have the tools (such as an autoresponder and other marketing tools) in place in order to have a successful business.  Having an online business is more than contacting friends and family.  Shouldn’t it be about contacting people world-wide and helping them?

You may not want to be a life coach yourself but wouldn’t it be to your advantage to know how to  talk to your clients, prospects, customers, team members, your spouse, and even your children?


I’m talking to Realtors, Insurance Agents, Direct Sales People, MLM affiliates, and especially coaches, speakers, writers, and anyone else who considers themselves a professional in any field.

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The Importance of Writing Down Your Goals

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Only 3% of adults have written goals and plans, and this 3 percent earn more than all of the other 97% put together.

Most people think they have goals but they actually only have hopes and wishes.

Hope is not a strategy for success and a wish is a goal with no energy behind it.

Writing out your goals and making plans to accomplish them and working on these goals daily increases your chances of achieving them by 1000%.

A written goal is something you can see, touch, read, and modify if necessary.  This will force you to clarify what you want and will motivate you to take action.

As I mentioned before, only 3% of people write down their goals and that means the other 97% work for these people.  Either you achieve your goals or you achieve someone else’s goals.

Which is it going to be?

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How You Can Generate Hundreds Of Targeted Leads

Leads Leads Leads!

Everyone needs them to build a business, but so many people don’t know how to generate them. Sound familiar?

Here’s your chance to learn how to get more leads for your business.

There are so many courses and trainings on the subject that I know it can be hard to find someone you can trust.

So I would like to help you out with that.

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 How To Get Leads For Your Business

My friend Mike Hobbs has earned well over a million dollars online and he is going to show you how you can generate hundreds of leads online with a $10 per day ad budget this coming Saturday @3pm EST here:

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Here are a few things Mike is going to cover on this web class:

– How To Pick & LASER Target Your Perfect Market For Your Business

– How To Create A Capture Page & Giveaway Offer That Attracts Leads & is Facebook Compliant

– How to BRIDGE From Your Giveaway To Joining Your Business Opportunity

– Best Content To Create & How To Automate it For Your Facebook Page

– How To Generate Leads With SIMPLE Facebook Ads ANYONE Can Do

– How To WIN With Only $10 Per Day Ad Budget (Scale up from there)

– Q&A – Ask Any Question & Mike Will Answer It At The End

This is easily a $1,000 webinar…

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I’ve been working with Mike for years and I know he is going to deliver a massive amount of value for you this Saturday!

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